Story of Aneta Dadashev
Sometimes, life’s most profound disappointments shine a light on our greatest blessings. Aneta Dadashev knows this wisdom well. It glows in her heart, illuminating the beauty that surrounds her every day: A devoted husband of twenty years. A loving son. Friends and family who embrace her. A medical career that saves lives. Aneta’s blessings are many, but she confesses that, for a while, the sole desire for a second child blinded her to those godsends.
Born in Uzbekistan, Aneta immigrated to Israel at age ten. In her early twenties, she moved to the United States with her husband to pursue dreams. Shortly before completing medical school in New York, she gave birth to their son, whom she lovingly describes as “my angel on earth.”
In 2005, the couple decided they wanted another child, but it didn’t happen. They recruited [fertility] doctors to guide them and [tried many medical options]. “I remember that time being the longest, most agonizing chapter of my life,” Aneta recalls. “Then, we received a final verdict: premature ovarian failure. The average woman becomes menopausal at 51; I reached that at age 26.”
A warrior at heart, Aneta tapped into the fervor woven into her soul during her stint with the Israeli army. She refused to accept defeat, clinging to denial and ego to have the child she desperately wanted. But as time wore on and disappointments piled up, the fight took a toll on her spirit. Aneta descended into depression.
“Depression doesn’t happen overnight,” she says. “For me, it was a buildup of stress, sadness, and the inability to get what I wanted. I felt somehow broken. I also had isolated myself because I believed my family and friends had enough problems of their own. I needed a wake-up call, and my husband became that. He told me, ‘Aneta, you are so blessed. Look around you. Go to the bedroom where your son sleeps. And be thankful. It’s okay not to have more.’”
In the Jewish faith, the woman of the household lights Shabbat candles each Friday evening just before sunset to illuminate a bright future and symbolize eternal peace. After hearing her husband’s words, Aneta lit the Shabbat candles in their home and asked God to help her release the desire for another child. As she gazed at those lights, God answered Aneta’s biggest question: why?
“I realized God was my savior by not allowing me to get pregnant again. I had severe eclampsia with my son, and that condition can lead to death. The chance of having it with a second pregnancy was high. God was saying, I saved you, Aneta, by not giving you another child. Be happy with your beautiful son. And with that, I began celebrating what I did have. I looked at things differently. I had nothing to cry about; I was fully blessed with a husband, son, family, and a career in medicine where I get to help people every day.”
Life’s disappointments have taught Aneta that every experience is a lesson to grow stronger. “Don’t think of the hard times as tripping and falling because you are not,” she counsels. “Share your pain with your family and other women. They are your bones. We women complete and need one another. Love your life and discover how great you are. Don’t become so focused on your problems that you forget your surroundings. Look around you and embrace your blessings. You are complete and beautiful inside and out.”
Today, Aneta and her husband live in Miami and own MedPro Urgent Care Center. Their son proudly serves in the Israeli army, and Aneta always wears a necklace he gave her. It’s her constant reminder that light radiates from her many blessings, and each day is an opportunity to shine.